Once again the tidal wave of Christian feminist bloggers has swept through the internet. Maybe you’ve seen it too. The voices are crying for freedom from gender roles, freedom from a life of insignificance and inferiority, and freedom from the things that, in their eyes, would keep them from being truly fulfilled. Sometimes it’s all I can do to walk away from the computer.
There’s nothing wrong in wanting to be fulfilled in life. There’s nothing wrong with living in freedom in Christ. There’s nothing wrong in wanting to use your gifts. What is wrong is when you cease to keep the inerrant Word of God as your standard by which you live and serve. If this is not the priority, it is so easy to form God into your own image in order to be used the way you want to be used.
You see, there will always be boundaries in your life. When I say boundaries, I mean God’s good design for men and women in the home and church. There are some things that God has specifically called men to, and some things God has uniquely called women to. And they are different, and they are good. This does not mean we women aren’t free. In fact, we are unique, different, and specifically designed for what God has called us to. We must rejoice in this and learn to flourish within God’s good parameters. He knows what will bring Him the ultimate glory and you the ultimate joy. Trust Him.
Also on the internet, some women have been voicing their feelings of being called to have more authority in the church, voicing the desire to be equal to men in all things. Dear sister, don’t let this confuse you. Don’t buy into the lie that just because you have a different role you are somehow less or inferior. This is hard for those of you who are natural leaders, who are natural proclaimers of truth. God knows your heart and He will allow you the opportunities to exercise the gifts he has given you all within his good parameters. You can and will be used but you must submit to God’s design.
And when it comes to freedom in Christ, yes He has set us free. But as Paul said, we cannot use our freedom to sin. We are not free from all social structures. We are not free from gender roles. We are not free from this sinful world. And before you start thinking that maybe those gender roles were never supposed to be and maybe they were in fact part of the fall, go back to Genesis yes, but look to Christ. He submitted to the Father. He was obedient to the Father. He was humble and served. He is our example.
If you are struggling to know where and how to use your God given gifts, first rejoice in them because they are gifts of grace that are to be used to build up the Church. Second, find a church to serve in and serve faithfully. And in your church you will have men that God has called to lead week in and week out. Know that God’s requirements are challenging for those men and we should support them through prayer as they seek to lead the flock entrusted to them. And finally know this dear sister, if you are given the chance to lead or teach children and women young and old, know you are desperately needed. This is not less than. This is a magnificent calling. Thank the Lord for it and be faithful in his service wherever he would have you.
Please take a few minutes to read Ashley’s wonderful posts on the defense of God’s good design: