Perhaps this is an odd title for this girl’s blog post. Let me set up the premise for the content. Recently I have had several conversations with some friends about what it means to be men and women of God in light of today’s crazy, gender-confused, culture. Because Matt and I have been going to a Sunday School class on parenting, I thought I would only be fitting to share some of the truths I gleaned from Sunday’s lesson in relation to that topic. (No, this does not mean we are expecting, just wanting to be better prepared for the future.)
Our teacher is an experienced, humble, honest, and I would consider successful parent. He raised his kids on the mission field for most of their lives and is currently the Dean of the missions department at our seminary. He is doing a two-parter on gender and how to raise godly men and women. However, raising godly kids all starts with the parent. I am so very thankful to have married a godly man who exemplifies these qualities and is learning and growing in them more and more.
Today, I wanted to share the points our teacher gave of what makes a godly man. (Next week, I will share the woman’s side). I am becoming more aware that we live in a culture that is sorely lacking in godly examples of manhood. Much of this has to do with the up rise of feminism (we women are not exempt from this problem). Therefore, it is important to take these desired qualities with several doses of grace. Apart from the grace of God, we can never be the man or woman God wants us to be. Any ladies that read these qualities, if you are not married, look for these in a mate but don’t be too hard on the guys. They must exhibit these qualities along with a deep desire to grow in them. As for raising godly men, I am filing this away in the “future” category (Lord willing) as I watch my husband and pray for him as he grows in these areas in order to be an example to any future sons that we may have. And any guys that just so happen to read this(I’m not foolish to think that very many do…but whatever), let these things be an encouragement to pursue grace-driven growth to be the man God, not society, wants you to be.“And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” ~ Phil. 1:6
There is an assault on boys and manhood. Society sees them as either:
A. Man as incompetent idiot that needs a woman
B. Man as perpetually adolescent
C. Man as thug who is overly masculine and aggressive
D. Man as ideal who doesn’t take initiative or show strength
God Sees godly men as one who:
1. Rejects Passivity– curse of the fall. Adam stood by Eve and watched her eat of the fruit. Therefore, this is a besetting sin which guys will have to guard against.
2. Accepts Responsibility– to provide and protect his family/those around him- also a curse of the fall due to Adam blaming Eve for eating of the fruit and “making” him eat as well.
3. Leads with courage– not afraid to step up. There is a difference in wimpiness and leading with grace and servant-hood.
4. Cultivates strength– in all areas: physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, intellectually- it’s OK to be strong! (but not overbearing)
5. Serves a Kingdom Cause– guys need a purpose that matters.
6. Seeks and lives for a greater good than short term gratification– they need a purpose that means something in the end.
Ladies, we have a role to play in this as well. We can help or hinder our brothers from becoming the godly men that God wants.If you see a young man exhibiting these qualities, encourage them in it. Stay tuned next week for our role and calling to be godly women in a society that prizes extreme feminism. And guys, those of you who are exhibiting these qualities, keep going! Don’t give up!
“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” ~ Galatians 6:9
Here are some quotes from a great little book by Elisabeth Elliot called, The Mark of a Man. I haven’t personally read the book but I am going to share some things that Matt underlined when he read it a few years ago in college. I hope it becomes a great resource to some.
“The world cries for men who are strong: strong in conviction, strong to lead, to stand, to suffer.”
“Masculinity and femininity, being elements of the original design, radiate glory. They shine.”
“God is the initiator. This is the distilled essence of masculinity: initiation”
“Real women will always be relieved and grateful when men are willing to be men”
“The power of servant-hood. It commands respect. It does not demand it.”
“A man’s willingness to offer up his life, for his wife or for anybody else who happens to need him, is not the end of everything. It’s only the end of himself”
“If a husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the Church, if he is to be her head in the same way in which Christ is the Head of the Church, he is going to have to do the seeking, wooing, the winning.”
“Love reaches out, willing to be turned down, or inconvenienced, expecting no personal reward, waiting only to give.”